Finding a nanny is a little like finding a husband.
It’s all about chemistry and you have to be patient and willing to wait for the right person to come along. It’s also one of the most nerve-wracking things you will do as a parent.
Many of you contacted me to say how helpful my post on the nanny tax was and wanted to know how I chose my nanny. This post is for you.
When making the decision to hire a nanny you may have in mind a cross between Mary Poppins and Nanny McPhee. Or perhaps you envision a sweet woman in her fifties named Olga who knows how to cure childhood ailments with home remedies, teaches your child French and flawless table manners.
The reality is that nannies come from a variety of backgrounds and there is no one “ideal” — only someone who is the right match for your family.
We’ve had our nanny Eva, since D2 was three months old. He adores her. We adore her. And I feel very blessed to have found someone who cares as much for my son as I do.
I started my search for a nanny while I was out on maternity leave and the stress of recovering from a C-section and trying to find someone just a few short months before going back to work was nearly too much for me.
Looking back there was so much I wish I had known. If you are serious about hiring a nanny, here are a few tips to get you started:
Step 1: Figure out if you can afford it. Nanny salaries vary dramatically by region and by the experience of the candidate. I live in the Southeast where salaries for a live out nanny start on the low end at about $450 per week for one child and $650 per week for two – three children. While paying health insurance is not required, it’s a nice benefit and gives you access to a broader pool of experienced career nannies. Regardless of what you pay your nanny, you will need to file employee taxes on her. Yes, many people get away with not paying taxes on their nanny but you should know it’s illegal not to do so. So figure this into your budget calculations. Your taxes will vary depending on your nanny’s salary. Mine run about $1,000 per quarter. Check out my past columns on the nanny tax for more detailed information on filing employee taxes or check out a site like 4Nannytaxes.com . One option that is becoming increasingly popular for couples who would like a nanny but can’t afford it on their own is a nanny share. This is where you and another family would hire a nanny to watch both of your children at one of your houses. As the economy has dried up disposable incomes, more nannies are becoming open to a nanny share arrangement.
Step 2: Think about the attributes and qualifications of your ideal candidate. Make a list of must haves and nice-to-haves for your nanny. A non-smoker and CPR and first aid certification (or a willingness to get it) were on my must-have list. Do you have a special needs child? You’ll want a nanny with some experience in this area. Are you hopeless at crafts and want your children not to miss out on this childhood perk? Put that skill on your list. You’ll find some nannies love infants and prefer to start with a family whose children are very small while others only want to work with families whose children are toddler-aged or older. Nannies come with all kinds of backgrounds. Is a college degree a must? Some nannies may lack a college degree but have deep experience in caring for children. In short, get a clear picture of your must-haves and put together a wish list to prepare you for the next step.
Step 3: Create a job description. As an executive I hire people all of the time so it was second nature for me to create a job description when I started my search. I strongly recommend you do this as well as it a) will help you clarify in your own mind what you need your nanny to do; b) will help your candidates understand your expectations and c) you can use it as a check list when you are interviewing. Here’s a typical short list of what a nanny will do:
What shouldn’t a nanny do? Be your housekeeper. My rationale? Would you rather have your nanny scrubbing your toilets or giving her full attention to your tot? Enough said.
Step 4: Start your search. Once you get your job description together, get going! Give yourself at least three to five months for your search. There a number of on-line membership-based nanny search agencies like Nannies4hire.com. In urban centers like New York City and Chicago, nanny agencies and services abound. You will (natch) have to pay them a fee but the advantage is they will pre-screen a pool of applicants who meet your requirements, help you with all of the necessary paper work and conduct that all-important multi-state criminal background check. A nanny agency is ideal also if you are short on time and need to get someone onboard stat. In my area, there weren’t any good agencies to work with so I placed an ad on Care.com, SitterCity.comand Craig’s list. I know. I know. You are probably thinking, “Craig’s list?! Is she insane?” I did it (albeit reluctantly) at the suggestion of a friend who found her family’s nanny this way as did a number of her friends. To my surprise, I met a number of fabulous candidates. You may also find, as I did, that many women looking for nanny engagements will post on all three boards to maximize their exposure.
I received about twenty inquiries from my Craig’s list ad, of which five met my qualifications and another 10 from Care.com – all of which met my requirements. As with any job search, ask your candidates to email their resumes to a special email box you set up just for this purpose. I started a nanny search file and as I received responses, I sorted resumes into Yes, No and Maybe piles.
Step 5: Interview your candidates. If you are conducting your own nanny search, I highly recommend you first phone screen your best applicants. This will allow you to ask questions about their work history, get a basic sense of their personality and check them out in general. I love this nanny interview sheet from Baby Center.com. Be sure to ask if they would be willing to submit to a drug and background check. If you like what you hear, invite them to meet you in a neutral location like a coffee shop. Did she show up on time? Was she neatly dressed? Is her philosophy about childrearing in tune with yours? Is she able to provide at least at least three (preferably five) references you can check? Did you feel comfortable around her? You’ll also want to understand her salary expectations as well as her general availability to start should you select her. I recommend doing three to five such second-round interviews, more if you have the stamina. By the time you complete your second screening, you should have a pretty good feel for your candidate(s) and whether she has the right chemistry for your family.
If your in-person interviews went great, you are ready for the home visit. You can check references at this point or wait until after the visit. Check back tomorrow for part 2 of this post on managing the home visit and hiring and on-boarding your new nanny.
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